This gem from Teresa Nielsen Hayden about masculinity:
Men still go on being men, and their dangly bits are no more nor less efficacious than they ever were, whether or not their womenfolk agree to go along with the gag. I mean, if the degree to which a man is treated respectfully had a direct influence on his masculinity, middle-aged white execs would be superstuds, and inner-city young black men would be so meek that they’d make Alan Alda look like Rambo.
Her post is in response to Kim du Toit’s argument about the "pussification" of the American male. Rather than recap her cogent argument here, I'd suggest going there and, also, reading the comments. It's good stuff, as well as a good take-down of what du Toit presents.
(At the risk of sounding like a deranged fan, have I mentioned lately that I intend to buy Ms NH a beer should I ever meet her?)